Helping people
Yesterday night I got a most intriguing phone call from a submissive. He has a persistant fantasy about being taken shopping for women's clothing by a Dominant woman, and being forced to try things on and buy clothing and accessories. The fantasy is not unusual, but having the nerve to live it out is.
I love so many things about being a Domme, but one of the things I love most is the insight it gives Me into the human psyche and a broad range of deviant sexual needs. I find it reassuring to be reminded over and over again that there is much more to people than the very conventional image of themselves that they project to the world. People, at least the people I am lucky enough to know, (even though I am a Dominant, I do feel fortunate to have the trust and confidence of the submissives I play with!) are just swimming with unusual and creative sexual desires. They do wonders to counteract any stereotypes women might have of men as "having a one track mind" sexually, or just wanting to fuck, not needing psycological complexity in their sexuality, not being attentive to women, etc.
The man who called hoped that another woman could be there to see his humiliation. I immediately thought of a friend of Mine who would be perfect for the scene. She is an imaginitive, deviant girl -very beautiful, lots of attitude. I called her to ask her if she would like to go sissy-shopping with us.
When we talked about his fantasy, she reflected on her desire to help people feel self-accepting about their kinky needs. Funny that so often in Domination, giving someone acceptance means humiliating them, giving them pain, or otherwise degrading them. It's all part of the complex and intriguing paradox of D/s, in which the Dominant is partially serving the submissive by means of making the submissive serve Her, in which care and attention are shown through consentual forms of abuse. Sometimes it just feels like living in an unending opposite-day, where pain is pleasure, where women control men, and where doing bad things to people makes everyone feel good. The other night a man I'm dating whispered to Me in bed before sleep, "There's not a bit of evil in you, that much I can see from here. But you are all kinds of naughty, and I like naughty."
It makes perfect sense to Me that sexuality would be as laden with paradoxes as life itself is.
I love so many things about being a Domme, but one of the things I love most is the insight it gives Me into the human psyche and a broad range of deviant sexual needs. I find it reassuring to be reminded over and over again that there is much more to people than the very conventional image of themselves that they project to the world. People, at least the people I am lucky enough to know, (even though I am a Dominant, I do feel fortunate to have the trust and confidence of the submissives I play with!) are just swimming with unusual and creative sexual desires. They do wonders to counteract any stereotypes women might have of men as "having a one track mind" sexually, or just wanting to fuck, not needing psycological complexity in their sexuality, not being attentive to women, etc.
The man who called hoped that another woman could be there to see his humiliation. I immediately thought of a friend of Mine who would be perfect for the scene. She is an imaginitive, deviant girl -very beautiful, lots of attitude. I called her to ask her if she would like to go sissy-shopping with us.
When we talked about his fantasy, she reflected on her desire to help people feel self-accepting about their kinky needs. Funny that so often in Domination, giving someone acceptance means humiliating them, giving them pain, or otherwise degrading them. It's all part of the complex and intriguing paradox of D/s, in which the Dominant is partially serving the submissive by means of making the submissive serve Her, in which care and attention are shown through consentual forms of abuse. Sometimes it just feels like living in an unending opposite-day, where pain is pleasure, where women control men, and where doing bad things to people makes everyone feel good. The other night a man I'm dating whispered to Me in bed before sleep, "There's not a bit of evil in you, that much I can see from here. But you are all kinds of naughty, and I like naughty."
It makes perfect sense to Me that sexuality would be as laden with paradoxes as life itself is.
posted by Mistress Katja at 10:43 AM
4 Comments:
Hi Mistress K ja, taking a little time today to see what People Helping People will send me to that is interesting. Helping people looks interesting and is a great read. Will also try People Helping People in my e-travels. Have a super day!
Hi Mistress K ja, I am cruising the blogs looking for any information on Relax At Home and landed here. Although Helping people is interesting and got my attention, I will add this knowledge to my storehouse of information. I never know where Relax At Home will take me. Have a great day!
Hi Mistress K ja, taking a little time today to see what Be Your Own Boss will send me to that is interesting. Helping people looks interesting and is a great read. Will also try Be Your Own Boss in my e-travels. Have a super day!
Hi Mistress K ja, it’s late in the evening, quiet and peaceful. This is good computer time for me. I thought I would check on Help People and see what came up. Helping people is something that is interesting to many people. I will also spend a little time checking on Help People. Getting late, have a good evening.
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