Feminine transformation and gender play
As a jumping-off point for weblog entries, I decided to try to give an anecdote about My experiences with or ideas about each genre within BDSM. Today’s theme, boys and girls, is feminization.
Feminization is a world of it's own. There is such diversity within the gender-play theme. There’s the "good girl" that likes to wear white ruffly panties and behaves shyly, so embarrassed to like naughty things. There's the slut that enjoys the feel of black satin lingerie or tight rubber, who likes to show off her bad behavior and to be corrupted and exploited by her Mistress. There's the girl who needs feminine re-education... trained by a firm and caring Mistress in the arts of makeup, walking in heels, feminine voice, posture, and sometimes in how to seduce boys, (or other girls in a lesbian fantasy.) The exhibitionist cross-dresser needs to be trained and taken out shopping or dancing. The reluctant lady sometimes needs to be tied up and forced into her costume and makeup.
The slutty-bitch sometimes needs punishment for her unseemly behavior. The Mommy's-boy who gets caught in Mommy's panties may need special domestic discipline, perhaps a spanking with a wooden spoon, or a punishment enema. And then there is the nervous novice, who enjoys a gentle make-over, with time to talk about fantasies and daydreams while the powder is softly dusted over her face...
These are some of the common themes in a forced-feminization fantasy, but goodness knows there is no end to the variety within the fantasy world of the cross-dresser.
On My trip to SF, My old friend Rachel overheard Me talking to prospective clients on the phone. She was surprised how many of the calls were about feminization. Rachel thought most professional Domination sessions focused on bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. I have been looking all over the web for some solid research about which fetishes are most common within BDSM. If anybody knows where I can see some reliable statistics, I would be most interested. I suspect that there are some differences between the most common fetishes in lifestyle-Domination vs. professional Domination, but I can tell you that bondage and sadomasochism are not the, ahem, dominant themes among clients, although they are right up there.
My top ten client interests are probably ranked in this order:
1. feminization
2. strap-on
3. seduction/denial
4. CBT/NT
5. bondage
6. sadomasochism
7. foot worship
8. verbal/phisical humiliation
9. Mommy-boy play and domestic discipline
10. enema play
Of course, most of these interests are in combination with each other. Sometimes all of the above elements are involved in one scene! (Yes, that takes a few hours...)
I'm sure other pro Dommes have different experiences. The above is just what I seem to attract. Could have a lot to do with the hot photo of Me strapping it on in the gallery.
I explained to Rachel that I think that the BDSM that goes on inside most people's minds seems to be very different from the images of it one sees in the media, or even at BDSM scene parties and clubs. The media sensationalizes and misrepresents BDSM, and what goes on at events are the things that lend themselves to events... Desires for cross-dressing and other fetishes that are more taboo for mainstream males seem to come out most often in private, one-on-one play.
Feminization combines two very powerful elements: sensual stimulation, (satin panties against cock, etc.) and symbolic submission. Many people have some kind of "trigger" that makes them feel submissive or humiliated, usually something that involves violating a social taboo, or taking on a persona that symbolizes a submissive role. Although in My world, femininity means anything-but-powerlessness, in many people's realities, females are frequently submissive to men. Embodying a female persona, then, helps the submissive shed their powerful male identity and frees them to feel submissive and to behave submissively.
Next: Strap-on play
Feminization is a world of it's own. There is such diversity within the gender-play theme. There’s the "good girl" that likes to wear white ruffly panties and behaves shyly, so embarrassed to like naughty things. There's the slut that enjoys the feel of black satin lingerie or tight rubber, who likes to show off her bad behavior and to be corrupted and exploited by her Mistress. There's the girl who needs feminine re-education... trained by a firm and caring Mistress in the arts of makeup, walking in heels, feminine voice, posture, and sometimes in how to seduce boys, (or other girls in a lesbian fantasy.) The exhibitionist cross-dresser needs to be trained and taken out shopping or dancing. The reluctant lady sometimes needs to be tied up and forced into her costume and makeup.
The slutty-bitch sometimes needs punishment for her unseemly behavior. The Mommy's-boy who gets caught in Mommy's panties may need special domestic discipline, perhaps a spanking with a wooden spoon, or a punishment enema. And then there is the nervous novice, who enjoys a gentle make-over, with time to talk about fantasies and daydreams while the powder is softly dusted over her face...
These are some of the common themes in a forced-feminization fantasy, but goodness knows there is no end to the variety within the fantasy world of the cross-dresser.
On My trip to SF, My old friend Rachel overheard Me talking to prospective clients on the phone. She was surprised how many of the calls were about feminization. Rachel thought most professional Domination sessions focused on bondage, discipline and sadomasochism. I have been looking all over the web for some solid research about which fetishes are most common within BDSM. If anybody knows where I can see some reliable statistics, I would be most interested. I suspect that there are some differences between the most common fetishes in lifestyle-Domination vs. professional Domination, but I can tell you that bondage and sadomasochism are not the, ahem, dominant themes among clients, although they are right up there.
My top ten client interests are probably ranked in this order:
1. feminization
2. strap-on
3. seduction/denial
4. CBT/NT
5. bondage
6. sadomasochism
7. foot worship
8. verbal/phisical humiliation
9. Mommy-boy play and domestic discipline
10. enema play
Of course, most of these interests are in combination with each other. Sometimes all of the above elements are involved in one scene! (Yes, that takes a few hours...)
I'm sure other pro Dommes have different experiences. The above is just what I seem to attract. Could have a lot to do with the hot photo of Me strapping it on in the gallery.
I explained to Rachel that I think that the BDSM that goes on inside most people's minds seems to be very different from the images of it one sees in the media, or even at BDSM scene parties and clubs. The media sensationalizes and misrepresents BDSM, and what goes on at events are the things that lend themselves to events... Desires for cross-dressing and other fetishes that are more taboo for mainstream males seem to come out most often in private, one-on-one play.
Feminization combines two very powerful elements: sensual stimulation, (satin panties against cock, etc.) and symbolic submission. Many people have some kind of "trigger" that makes them feel submissive or humiliated, usually something that involves violating a social taboo, or taking on a persona that symbolizes a submissive role. Although in My world, femininity means anything-but-powerlessness, in many people's realities, females are frequently submissive to men. Embodying a female persona, then, helps the submissive shed their powerful male identity and frees them to feel submissive and to behave submissively.
Next: Strap-on play
posted by Mistress Katja at 12:07 PM
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All that I know I learned after I was thirty.
I have a Phone Sex site/blog. It pretty much covers Phone Sex and Adult related talk.
Come and check it out if you get time :-)
Here is our number 1-900-336-8777
Few people even scratch the surface, much less exhaust the contemplation of their own experience.
I have a Phone Sex site/blog. It pretty much covers Phone Sex and Adult related talk.
Come and check it out if you get time :-)
Here is our number 1-900-336-8777
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