Seduction and Denial
Seduction/denial... our next stop on My whirlwind tour through the many generes of BDSM that I enjoy...
(Note, this weblog mixes descriptions of BDSM scenes from My personal life with those from My professional life as a Dominatrix. It should not be assumed that activities described below occurred in a professional session.)
Recently I read in an email from pro-Domme friend of Mine in SF that Her favorite hobby is "tease and denial, tease and denial, tease and denial, CBT." This made me laugh out loud, because that is one of My favorite hobbies as well.
The dialogue in a seduction/denial scene often goes something like this: "You want Me to touch you, don't you? Do you know how I like to touch a man? Mmmmmm! Well, you're about to find out!" ...After which a firm "spanking" is administered to the supplicant's dirty-bits with a special little paddle.
In one scene a slave enjoyed My caresses for a few moments before feeling the effects of the icy-hot that was being liberally applied. I loved watching him shake and squirm. The poor thing was all tied up and could do nothing about what he described as "a sensation like gasoline being lit on fire" across his cock and balls! (Fear not, lightweights, this sub is a masochist and I wouldn't be this extreme with anyone who didn't love and need it.)
You may notice that I like to use the term "seduction and denial" rather than "tease and denial." This is because the Dominant aspect of this type of play has as much or more to do with the mental realm as the physical. In a seduction/denial scene, the Domina is using her nearly devastating power to captivate her submissive with her sexual desirability. Her power is only increased by his frustration and helplessness to obtain satisfaction.
Any woman in any area of the sex industry, and I include the Dominant in this category even though we do not provide sex, will tell you that males are indeed different from females when it comes to sexuality. It is something we in the industry understand better than most women.
Male desire for women for is so strong; it can be seen as a weakness. Their susceptibility to female beauty and charm is extreme. Personally, I think this sexual weakness towards women is something most males feel quite burdened by hiding in most of their everyday lives. I don't just mean submissive men, either. And I think it's appropriate that they keep their neediness to themselves. Women have other things on their minds that they deserve to have all the time in the world to enjoy. Not that women aren't sexually obsessed themselves. I certainly am. But it’s a bit more... shall we say subtle? than what males generally experience.
In everyday life, men may have to keep their fascination with female desirability to themselves, but in a seduction/denial scene, they can indulge in the lavish experience of prolonged craving. In this kind of scene, obsession which may be problematic in every day life is elevated to a high art.
Where does the submissive part come in? This is not simply about physically teasing a cock without satisfaction! The submissive may be forced to undergo pain or humiliation in order to simply be allowed to look at the Domme, and She is something to look at! Especially in full costume. Especially when She bends over to reveal just a bit more cleavage... Perhaps if you are extremely well behaved you might be allowed a peek up Her skirt? And being extremely well behaved just happens to involve another ten clothes-pins, or ten lashes with the cane. How much will you take, just to see a teeny-tiny bit more of Her devastating beauty? How long can you maintain your aroused state without release? Two hours? Five? Perhaps you are Her chastity-slave and she will lock you up for weeks at a time... the ultimate denial!
And when She does give you attention, it may not be what you had in mind. Pleasure may be mixed with pain. She may have her own ideas about what boys like you really need. Now that you are in a compromised state, it may be the perfect time to receive a lesson in any number of things She may wish to teach you. Perhaps some instruction in manners, posture, or ability to follow directions. Perhaps you need some training in self control. Silly boy, you are so easily manipulated!
For the submissive who craves seduction/denial, the best part is not physical release, but the loss of power and control while under the spell of a clever and Dominant Woman, who is not afraid to use his lust for Her as weapon against him, as brutal and exquisite as the whip itself.
(Note, this weblog mixes descriptions of BDSM scenes from My personal life with those from My professional life as a Dominatrix. It should not be assumed that activities described below occurred in a professional session.)
Recently I read in an email from pro-Domme friend of Mine in SF that Her favorite hobby is "tease and denial, tease and denial, tease and denial, CBT." This made me laugh out loud, because that is one of My favorite hobbies as well.
The dialogue in a seduction/denial scene often goes something like this: "You want Me to touch you, don't you? Do you know how I like to touch a man? Mmmmmm! Well, you're about to find out!" ...After which a firm "spanking" is administered to the supplicant's dirty-bits with a special little paddle.
In one scene a slave enjoyed My caresses for a few moments before feeling the effects of the icy-hot that was being liberally applied. I loved watching him shake and squirm. The poor thing was all tied up and could do nothing about what he described as "a sensation like gasoline being lit on fire" across his cock and balls! (Fear not, lightweights, this sub is a masochist and I wouldn't be this extreme with anyone who didn't love and need it.)
You may notice that I like to use the term "seduction and denial" rather than "tease and denial." This is because the Dominant aspect of this type of play has as much or more to do with the mental realm as the physical. In a seduction/denial scene, the Domina is using her nearly devastating power to captivate her submissive with her sexual desirability. Her power is only increased by his frustration and helplessness to obtain satisfaction.
Any woman in any area of the sex industry, and I include the Dominant in this category even though we do not provide sex, will tell you that males are indeed different from females when it comes to sexuality. It is something we in the industry understand better than most women.
Male desire for women for is so strong; it can be seen as a weakness. Their susceptibility to female beauty and charm is extreme. Personally, I think this sexual weakness towards women is something most males feel quite burdened by hiding in most of their everyday lives. I don't just mean submissive men, either. And I think it's appropriate that they keep their neediness to themselves. Women have other things on their minds that they deserve to have all the time in the world to enjoy. Not that women aren't sexually obsessed themselves. I certainly am. But it’s a bit more... shall we say subtle? than what males generally experience.
In everyday life, men may have to keep their fascination with female desirability to themselves, but in a seduction/denial scene, they can indulge in the lavish experience of prolonged craving. In this kind of scene, obsession which may be problematic in every day life is elevated to a high art.
Where does the submissive part come in? This is not simply about physically teasing a cock without satisfaction! The submissive may be forced to undergo pain or humiliation in order to simply be allowed to look at the Domme, and She is something to look at! Especially in full costume. Especially when She bends over to reveal just a bit more cleavage... Perhaps if you are extremely well behaved you might be allowed a peek up Her skirt? And being extremely well behaved just happens to involve another ten clothes-pins, or ten lashes with the cane. How much will you take, just to see a teeny-tiny bit more of Her devastating beauty? How long can you maintain your aroused state without release? Two hours? Five? Perhaps you are Her chastity-slave and she will lock you up for weeks at a time... the ultimate denial!
And when She does give you attention, it may not be what you had in mind. Pleasure may be mixed with pain. She may have her own ideas about what boys like you really need. Now that you are in a compromised state, it may be the perfect time to receive a lesson in any number of things She may wish to teach you. Perhaps some instruction in manners, posture, or ability to follow directions. Perhaps you need some training in self control. Silly boy, you are so easily manipulated!
For the submissive who craves seduction/denial, the best part is not physical release, but the loss of power and control while under the spell of a clever and Dominant Woman, who is not afraid to use his lust for Her as weapon against him, as brutal and exquisite as the whip itself.
posted by Mistress Katja at 2:22 PM
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Life must be understood backwards; but... it must be lived forward.
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Hi there Mistress K ja, I had been out looking for some new information on get any woman when I found your site and Seduction and Denial. Though not just what I was searching for, it drew my attention. An interesting post and I thank you for it.
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I have a Phone Sex site/blog. It pretty much covers Phone Sex and Adult related talk.
Come and check it out if you get time :-)
Here is our number 1-900-336-8777
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